Eileen Loveman Daily Posting

One of the most frustrating aspects of being a parent, in my view, is NOT saying the right thing.

How many times have we wished that we had a nickel for every lecture we’ve given or answer that didn’t change, no matter how many times the question was asked? 

How many nights have been spent tossing and turning, scenarios replayed in our minds in response to the day’s activities?  Opportunities to teach and to advise wasted, moments that could have been used as learning tools, squandered. 
 

Sometimes we are made to feel that we know nothing about anything, and even less about something.  We are inadequate and incompetent,  useless and worthless, if success is measured by the responses we receive or affirmation acclaimed.
 

But all is not lost.  For life itself is the greatest teacher, the best opponent your child will encounter.  Whether they be 9 years old or 19; 29 or 59 it is a tireless adversary.  Life is both the great equalizer and clarifier; it will state in an instant what you have been trying to pound into their heads since they were a thought in your mind.

We love them, we nurture them and we try with all our heart to teach them. 
 

Sometimes they just won’t hear it.  You can not save them from heartache.

Our children are part of us, but are NOT us; only mere extensions of what we want to be.  Saying I told you so won’t give you credence or verification. 
 

Silence says volumes; the best overture of love is obvious.  

Never saying I told you so is underestimated.

When your heart is heavy and you feel there is nothing left to say, then that indeed is the answer. 

Sometimes saying nothing is the best and most loved filled thing of all.